Book Of Likes Faces

I have been my mom's "confidential" since I was a kid, almost like her "little mom". Yesterday she showed me a side of hers that made me speechless. There's a woman who is my mom's friend and I grew up playing with her younger daughter since we were close in age. She always treated me very well and like I was part of the family. I crossed paths with her a couple days ago and she vented that since her husband died 2 years ago her daughters abandoned her and treat her very poorly. I told my mom yesterday what she had told and that we should pay a visit her someday since she looks like she really needs some company and a shoulder to cry on. Here's the reaction of my mom:" since her daughters abandoned her and she's getting sick and old we should visit her and offer to take care of her in exchange for her house when she dies and you are going to help me". I could not believe what my ears were listening. Her first reaction to her friend struggling with family issues is to want to take advantage of her when she's in a very vulnerable state??? I told her we shouldn't do that because it wasn't right, one thing would be to take care of a sick and old family member and them leaving the house to us but this is too much. Then she kept saying how her daughters clearly don't deserve the house, they probably wouldn't want to take care of their old and sick mother since they don't even visit her anymore. I really don't want to do this, it just feels so wrong, I don't want to take advantage of someone who was always super kind to me. She said it was fine since it was pretty common in our country for people to take care of someone outside of their family in exchange for their house. But it just doesn't sit right with me. I wonder if this is common in other countries and if people are generally ok with it. I don't want to be part of this but when my mom really wants something it's hard to change her mind. I don't know how to change her mind about it.

I have been seeing this guy for less than a year. We were engaged and took a little break and working on being with each other again. He told his kids that the reason why we broke up is because I'm a "gold digger and would be embarrassed to be seen with me again". That's NOT why we took a break. We were engaged and I wasn't ready to take the step. I asked that we put that on pause and work on the relationship and ourselves more before we get married. He is clinically diagnosed as bipolar and manic depressive. He is on meds now and I thought things were getting better. I want him on the meds for a year before I say "I do". Yet, he is telling me he loves me, we are getting our kids together, he is helping me with chores around the house and things that I need and doing family things together again. I thought we were going in the right direction. I just found this info out from one of his kids over the weekend and I'm really hurt by this. I am NOT a gold digger. He wanted to take care of me when I needed it. I can stand on my own and learning independence again. He is painting me in a bad light with his kids and things are weird now. I really do care about him and I could see a future with him. That's why I want to work on things with him. But now, I really don't know what to do. It's really hurtful to hear this nugget of information. I don't know how to bring this up to him without throwing his kid under the bus because there would be no way of me knowing this without hearing it from the kid. ALSO-I have decided to start my own business and need help putting it together like building things and extra muscle. He said he wants to help me be successful. I ask for his help and he complains about doing "chores" for me and if I don't pleasure his needs, he isn't happy and that I'm using him and that he needs someone better than me to give into his needs.

You know what is worse than being old? It is feeling useless. Feeling like you have no purpose in life. Feeling like nobody wants you or needs you. Having no reason to get up in the morning because you have no job. It's because nobody understands until they get this age. And then there's nobody around who cares.